you'll need a new clutch & flywheel anyway - the 4.3 setup won't work
as for the rear end - if you plan on keepin the nv3500, get you some 3.73s or 4.10s (depending on tire size, whether you do more highway or city driving, & cam choice). if you're going t-56, you'll want something more around a 4.56 or 4.88.
a TrueTrac is one of your best bets to fix your one-wheel wonder.
if you're feelin adventurous, you may as well go ahead & get a 6 lug, 14 bolt rear - it'll hold up better.
if you end up going with the 14 bolt, you'll wanna do that & re-gear at the same time as your trans swap if you also go t-56
01+ they'll have aluminum heads